elicitation

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# Elicitation

Psychological profiling through natural conversation.

## Goal

When reviewing or creating content related to psychological elicitation—whether conversation scripts, interview questions, user research flows, or any code that implements these techniques—**your goal is to achieve a 10/10 score**.

Score all work on a 0-10 scale based on adherence to the principles and techniques in this skill. Provide your assessment as **X/10** with specific feedback on what's working and what needs improvement to reach 10/10.

A 10/10 means the work:
- Embodies the core principle (depth through patience, not probing)
- Uses appropriate techniques from the research traditions
- Avoids all anti-patterns
- Creates conditions for authentic self-disclosure

Iterate until you reach 10/10.

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## Core Principle

**Depth comes from patience, not probing.**

The most revealing information emerges when people feel safe to share, not when they're questioned. Your role is to create conversational space where self-disclosure feels natural and meaningful.

Key insight: People want to tell their stories. They rarely get the chance.

## Three Research Traditions

This skill synthesizes three complementary approaches:

### 1. Autobiographical Memory Research
How memories shape identity. Key finding: **Self-defining memories** (Singer) are the building blocks of personality—vivid, emotionally intense, frequently rehearsed memories linked to enduring concerns.

### 2. Narrative Identity Theory
How people construct life stories. Key finding: The **narrative themes** people use (redemption vs. contamination, agency vs. communion) predict psychological well-being better than the actual events (McAdams).

### 3. Motivational Interviewing
How to facilitate disclosure without resistance. Key finding: **Reflections outperform questions** at eliciting authentic self-disclosure. Aim for 2:1 reflection-to-question ratio (Miller & Rollnick).

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## Self-Defining Memories

Jefferson Singer identified five criteria that make a memory "self-defining":

1. **Vivid** - Rich sensory and emotional detail
2. **Emotionally intense** - Strong feeling, positive or negative
3. **Frequently rehearsed** - Comes to mind often, told to others
4. **Linked to similar memories** - Part of a pattern or theme
5. **Connected to enduring concerns** - Reflects ongoing goals, conflicts, or unresolved issues

### Eliciting Self-Defining Memories

Don't ask: "What's your most formative memory?"

Instead, create conversational frames:

**The "keeps coming back" frame:**
> "Some memories just stay with us—they pop into our heads at unexpected moments, or we find ourselves telling them to new people in our lives. Is there a memory like that for you?"

**The "explains who I am" frame:**
> "When you're getting to know someone new and you want them to really understand where you're coming from, is there a story or moment you find yourself sharing?"

**The "turning point" frame:**
> "Looking back, was there a moment that felt like things shifted—where life before and after felt somehow different?"

### What Self-Defining Memories Reveal

| Memory Feature | Personality Insight |
|----------------|---------------------|
| Themes of mastery, achievement | High need for agency |
| Themes of connection, relationships | High need for communion |
| Redemption sequences (bad → good) | Resilience, generativity |
| Contamination sequences (good → bad) | Depression risk, unresolved trauma |
| Integration and meaning-making | Psychological maturity |
| Fragmentation and confusion | Identity diffusion |

See: [Self-Defining Memories Reference](./references/self-defining-memories.md)

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## Life Story Interview: 8 Key Scenes

Dan McAdams' Life Story Interview asks for 8 specific "scenes" that reveal narrative identity:

1. **High Point** - Peak experience, most wonderful moment
2. **Low Point** - Nadir, most difficult moment
3. **Turning Point** - Moment of significant change
4. **Earliest Memory** - First clear memory
5. **Important Childhood Memory** - Vivid memory before age 12
6. **Important Adolescent Memory** - Vivid memory from teen years
7. **Important Adult Memory** - Significant recent memory
8. **One Other Important Memory** - Anything else that defines who they are

### Conversational Adaptations

You don't need to ask all 8 sequentially. Instead:

**Open with curiosity, not agenda:**
> "I'm curious about the moments that shaped you. Not necessarily the big resume stuff—more the experiences that stick with you."

**Follow their lead:**
When they mention a period of life, gently explore:
> "What was that time like for you? Any particular moments that stand out?"

**Bridge across time:**
> "That sounds like it mattered. Was there ever a moment earlier—or later—that connected to that same feeling?"

### Narrative Themes to Listen For

**Agency themes** (personal power, achievement, mastery):
- "I decided..."
- "I made it happen..."
- "I pushed through..."

**Communion themes** (connection, love, belonging):
- "We were all together..."

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